Let’s hit my by whens first:
On my way to creating a financial plan that gets excited about retiring and giving back.
- I have completed 3 out of the 7 steps in Master the game as I said.
- I have not touched the other workbook I said I would at all. I get to take a look at this and decide if I put too much on myself or if I am avoiding. The first time I tried to go through this book, “Think and Grow Rich” it seemed so outdated and did not speak to me (although I use all the steps towards my tennis goals) so I thought by tying it to Tony Robbin’s book (someone whose language speaks to me) and to PSP that I would get this done!
- I have completed my module 1 of 7 week Tantra course and used the KISS meditation I learned with the guy I am dating. More importantly I shared my meditation morning ritual with him (when before I would not do it if someone new was around or skip it that day) and he joined in on the second time. So I am being more open sharing what I am up to. Win!
- I said I would talk with a few people and dig deep as to what was underneath both of my goals. I did this with my small group this week and I get to do it individually with people in the upcoming weeks.
This week what stood out to me was an exercise about what beliefs we were taught about sex from family, religion, friends. So I share and welcome anyone to share back in comments or privately to me if interested.
Step 1) List as many as you can beliefs you remember being taught about sex. Ex: Having sex before marriage is a sin; Having multiple sexual partners makes you popular/slutty; If I don’t have good sex with my partner, my partner will cheat; Being gay is a sin/illness; Having sexual desires is bad; Asking for sex or telling my partner what I want is not good; Refusing sex to my partner makes me a bad spouse; sex is only for procreation and not for enjoyment; Sex is meant to be enjoyed; sex is healthy; My sexuality has the potential to attract harmful situations; Sex is a beautiful act of connecting with another.
Step 2) go through the beliefs you wrote and think how do they affect your intimate life,your choice of partners and the quality of your relationships? See which ones are empowering and which ones you feel are disempowering.
Step 3) Look at the column with the disempowering beliefs and decide what new beliefs you would like to replace them with. Be creative and write a list of the new beliefs you would want to make your own, so you can rewrite your connection and intimacy story to match your true heart and soul desires.
For me as a child I didn’t have much to go on here. In the one year i lived with my Mom after my parents got divorced I wasn’t taught anything but I observed and was around an abusive situation. After exiting that situation quickly, I grew up with my Dad and what I learned was sex is bad and then whatever you do you have 3 rules one of them involved not coming home pregnant. But no real beliefs taught to me. Going back to religion which I went to church briefly for a year or two before I moved in with my Dad once again it was all about don’t do it. It is a sin. I wonder if people who grew up with their Mom or both parents were taught? …TBC