VT: 50% of your life is contrast

Listening to the Life Coach school podcast with Brooke Castillo. She said something that I loved was that “Life is designed to be 50% negative. Without that contrast,  there is no positive.” Love it. Anyway,  food for thought. 

Goal 1: Starting the journey Org Psyc Consultant

I emailed the founder of LifeLabs. I also will be chatting with Naomi and Elaine (yay!). Also on my list for this weekend is to research schools. 

Goal 2: Being present and intentional about how I spend my time

Definitely way less time on Facebook, but I need to delete my Instagram. It is the one addiction that I have and I get to assume control over it. It’s a quick fix and an intentional distraction for me and it doesn’t serve me. It’s no wonder why my attention and focus is so fractured.

Also, I get to decide how I am going to celebrate my birthday. I have begun to develop anxiety over making plans. I think it’s generated from not having a calm mind with, again, clear desires. 

I am coming to realize more and more that this cycle for me is all about creating clarity. And as scary as it is to say “I am going to do X” and sticking to it no matter what is – it’s also really freaking powerful. 


VT: That’s a whole lotta life right there


So much is going on everywhere in my life. And it’s really cool. I’m feeling abundant af. Loving af. It’s lit.

I’ve grown up a lot since Cycle 1 and the biggest development is the level of self awareness and responsibility I’m accepting for my life, my feelings, and my results. Ain’t nobody out here creating this life but me- which is terrifying yet motivating.

I’m working on:

  • Loving people where they are at and not trying to change them
  • Loving myself so much that bouts of jealousy and worthiness conversations become fewer and far between

As for my goals this cycle:

  • Begin my journey towards being a org psyc consultant that works on a consultative basis and has a public speaking career
  • Being present and intentional about how I spend my time

I’ve already started on Goal #2 by beginning to restructure my relationship with my phone. For the past two days, it’s been either off or on Do Not Disturb during working hours. I also kept tallies on how often I motioned to check my phone. It’s no wondered that I my thinking was so fractured – I kept breaking attention for no reason.

I was really pleased with my results in that vein. As for the former, I will email Tania (the woman who runs a business doing EXACTLY what I want to do) this week to see if she’ll make time to speak with me.

In life news: I moved apartments (signed my 1st lease ever in NYC) and made it official with the guy I’m dating (this is the one I mentioned in the fear setting workshop y’all). I am also launching a new event series at work that is getting a lot of positive reaction. So mazel tov to me!

Thanks for taking this wild ride with me. Rock on lifers.

VT: Back in the game

Something has changed in me over the past couple of weeks, and I noticed myself building up to it- I am ready to date.

Like officially. Like got a mani pedi and a wax ready. Like 2 dates are scheduled for this week ready. Like slipped my card to a cute guy at Warby Parker ready.

Funny because this was my goal from last cycle, but I am beginning to realize that these cycles shed light on what’s next for me more and sets it in motion.

It’s all attitude. It really is.

As for what’s up for this cycle- still going strong with meditation. And I’ve decided that 60% of the remaining things in PSP are going to be tabled. I also realized that it’s distracting for me to have too many goals/desires to pursue at one time. I would rather get a handle on something that’s top level priority to me and add things when I feel like I can add more.

I’ve learned that I need visual tracking. This is what provides me with encouragement. Employing that one day at a time methodology. Baby steps if you will.

So yeah, that’s a bit of a ramble, but that’s what’s on my mind.

Love you all.


VT: Narrowly remembered

In Orlando, in my brother’s home, feeling incredibly at home.

It’s a nice feeling being around family.

We did a lot today, but the thing that stood out is our time at the gun range.

I have never shot a gun until today. My mom didn’t even let us have supersoakers as children. Yet here Kevin and I were in the range today.

It was definitely an exercise in leaving your comfort zone for me. I was scared and nervous- partially convinced that I’d hurt myself somehow. So much so that I teared up during that first hour.

By the end of it, I was loading my own clip and hitting the bullseye on the target (no exaggeration!). It made me think about doing things that seem scary at first, but then with practice…yeah, it’s a great feeling.

So more of activities that bring that up. Flinging myself forward in a way.

It’s cool.

VT: Me time

I just restored integrity on the chat so here we go.

Honestly, not much to report.

I realize my two other goals this cycle: public speaking and studying Creole have totally fallen to the wayside. And I’ve come to realize that focusing on 1 thing bodes better for success- for me anyway.

I’ve been crushing my first goal of meditation, journaling, and minimizing social media use.

And that is a cause for celebration! So I’m going to acknowledge myself for that.

I love how I look forward to my meditation everyday. It gets me grounded and intentional and I really love that. Having a sense of control over myself and my thoughts. The world is crazy, but I don’t have to be.

I also believe that this will inform my PSPLife goals moving forward: 1 overall theme and breaking down the theme into two goals that feed into that.

I get to spend time at home today and work on my personal to-do list which is really exciting. Looking to do the 1st lesson of FPU and tend to my personal website. Everything else would be a big bonus.

Anyway, love you all.

VT: Nike’s got a point.

Hey all,

Blogging early because I’ll be away for the long weekend. I’ll be camping for the first time EVER, so that in of itself is cause for celebration. I’ve been incorporating new things and people into my life as of late and it’s definitely feeling good. I’m feeling alive and not so boring.

I’m having some interesting thoughts around procrastination and/or lack of motivation and their power to make things seem much more painful/boring/annoying/not fun then they are.

Everyone has that moment when they look at their to do list and a couple tasks just keep getting rolled over from week to week. Or not wanting to go to the gym or someone’s inconveniently timed or located social event. But honestly, getting the thing done or going to the thing I didn’t want to, usually turns out fine. And more than half the time, better than fine.

I went to a Devotional this week (I’m exploring becoming a Bahai) and I had all this resistance because I didn’t know the people hosting it that well and was afraid the awesome vibe that I’ve come to expect wouldn’t be there and it would ruin all things Bahai for me….and on and on and on.

But I went anyway. And it was fine. I was glad that I went.

And time after time of making myself follow through, I realize that enjoying myself through it— that’s all me. The externalities really don’t matter- it’s all how I choose to interpret. Choose to react.

So, I’m going to start running into the resistance. Dancing with discomfort.  All the other potential alliterations for saying I will aim to make courageousness and commitment my default.

As daunting as it seems, it makes my life better. And that’s worth it.

And stats using a happy face analysis:

Meditation 🙂

Journaling 🙂

Minimizing social media :/

Creole 😦

Public Speaking : ]

Have a great holiday weekend everyone!